✏️ Definition

Death Grip Syndrome (DGS) refers to a desensitisation of the penis, leading to difficulties with sensation and ejaculation during intercourse. DGS can also be associated with difficulty maintaining a strong erection.

👦 Who

This delayed ejaculation affects men who have been celibate for a long time (especially in their teens: shyness, strict upbringing, etc.) and who have taken refuge in excessive masturbation and pornography, developing bad habits such as squeezing their penis hard, using the same hand or not using lubricant.

When they have intercourse for the first time, they are disappointed with the sensations they get from sex and don't understand why they don't come.

They are able to ejaculate alone in front of the screen because their penis is used to this sensation, and find it extremely difficult to come without using their hand during intercourse.

⛔ Consequences

This causes frustration for both partners.

The man becomes increasingly anxious at the thought of not ejaculating, creating a vicious circle in which he gradually avoids intercourse and resorts to masturbation and pornography, making his DGS worse.

The girlfriend is frustrated and thinks that she is not exciting her partner or that he is gay.

Many men report separation from their partner and a profound deterioration in their mental health as a result of Death Grip Syndrome, as ejaculation is a symbol of their masculinity.

📊 Data

Death Grip Syndrome is a common problem affecting up to 8% of men and tends to increase with the proliferation of pornography and the difficulty of finding a girlfriend on dating apps.

Summary

Physical manifestations:

• Difficulty ejaculating during intercourse without using the hands

• Reduced sensation during intercourse

• Difficulty maintaining an erection

Causes:

• Often associated with long periods of adolescent celibacy

• Poor masturbation habits (strong pressure, repetitive technique, lack of lubricant…)

• Excessive use of pornography

Psychological and relational effects:

• Disappointment during first intercourse

• Increased anxiety about sexual performance

• Frustration for both partners

• Risk of a vicious cycle: avoidance of sex, withdrawal into masturbation and pornography

• Potential impact on self-esteem and perception of masculinity

Long-term consequences:

• Worsening of DGS, leading to irreversibility and inability to ejaculate with the partner

• Risk of separation/divorce

• Difficulty in conceiving a child

• Damage to mental health: depression, anxiety, etc.